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Trying to Love Like Jesus
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This excerpt is a journal entry I wrote in 2014 when we were in Uganda spending our first few days with JuJu and Moses, my two youngest.  It was a difficult time and their's was a difficult background.  The Lord has been faithful to our family and we are celebrating the finalization of the adoption this week!  Praying for God’s hand of favor on these two little ones, daily.  Since this was written, JuJu has put her faith and trust in Jesus and is doing exceptionally well in school as well as in her own young faith walk.  We are praying for the day when Mo receives the Gospel and puts his trust in Jesus and His Gospel.  JuJu is in second grade and Moses in Pre-K.  Praise the Lord for his goodness and grace in our family!

 
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We are learning a lot on this journey.  Adoption is always hard.  Adoption is always worth the fight.  We didn’t come in here with any preconceived or romanticized ideas.  We knew it would be hard :the long days of waiting for the next appointment, the attachment issues, the task of giving love to someone who has never experienced it, and may not always want it.  But as the saying goes, “The reward is worth the risk."

This evening, our new daughter was standing alone in the yard, in the dark, crying softly.  Kilby found her, and brought her to me.  As I held her and stroked her hair and gently wiped her tears, I told her the things I would tell either of my other daughters.  “I love you”.  “Jesus loves you”.  “It will be okay”.  I spoke Psalm 23 over her, made up a song, and sung to her.  And then it dawned on me… "You can cry as long as you want to." You don’t have to stop crying.  In a culture of survival, I wonder if she has ever felt the freedom to cry.  Or, maybe, she has spent a lot of nights crying herself to sleep.  I don’t know.  I don’t speak the same earthly language as her, and I am not sure she would have given me answers to those questions even if she could.  The language barrier was shattered by gentle hands, soft words, and tight squeezes, and hopefully the love of an earthly father that reflects a God she will soon know.  After half hour, Little took her to her bed, and rubbed her little scarred belly and arms, until she slept.  Now, she is peacefully resting, and I hope and want to believe feeling a little more secure. 

Loving someone who doesn’t understand your love is as good a picture of the Gospel as I have ever seen. 

 

 

Life Principles of the Gospel Man Part 7

gospel header Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak…

-James 1:19a

I have learned the hard way that the best way to become an effective communicator is to become an effective and sincere listener.  In ministry and life, I tend to want to hear someone out before telling my story or giving advice.  We have all been around that person who seems to care less about what you have to say and is determined to tell his story or give his wisdom.  I am learning that there are three things that will make me a more effective leader, parent, husband, and friend.

First, learn to listen to someone who is in need or in pain and be willing to simply empathize or sympathize with them.  The bible says we should “weep with those who weep”(Romans 12:15), and, “Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.”(Galatians 6:2).  So I need to learn to listen and do my best to “feel” what my friend is feeling.  I don’t necessarily need to give them life-changing counsel.

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Second, I need to learn to share in the excitement, joy, or pain, of a person’s story.  I need to become a listener in their story.  Everyone has a “story”.  Have you ever known someone for a period of time, feeling like you knew him or her pretty well, only to learn that there was a lot more to the person than you realize.  I have often been guilty of knowing someone for years before I really learned that this person had a story to tell.  So many people carry pain and baggage, but a listening and sincere ear is often the best way to minister to that person.  My goal as a believer should be to move beyond acquaintance and toward genuine relationship.

Lastly, I am often guilty of failing to “rejoice with those who rejoice” (Romans 12:15).  When someone is happy or excited because of something they have experienced or learned, I should share in the excitement.  I don’t need to be a know-it-all.  I need to be eager to learn through what others are experiencing.

These are principals that have been very helpful for me in being a better brother in Christ, but  I still have so much to learn.  I hope they will help you too.

Holloway Nation 2.0

Every fall, we try to do a Holloway Nation photo shoot.  It is a lot fun, and also a great way to watch these guys grow from year to year.  Thought we’d share a few of these pics with you.  Little and I are so blessed to be in our twenty-second year of marriage together.  It has been an amazing journey and I am so grateful to The Lord for the family he has blessed us with.  I love these guys like crazy. Plus see how much they've grown from last year. holloway_8651

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A couple weeks ago, my assistant, Caroline Smith, came by and took some pictures of me and my family.  If you know anything about our life here, you know how hard it can be to nail all of us down at one time.  It's even harder trying to get us to all look at the camera at the same time.  That's why we love that Caroline was able to just come over to our home and take photos of us while we were hanging out.  It feels more real for our family that way.  If you're interested in using her as a designer or photographer, you can check out her work here.